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I believe to have a good connection with our kids we must be parents that lead by example. What are we letting our children observe? Do we preach to them and not do what we say ourselves? Parents have responsibilities just like children have responsibilities. It's a fact that if we shuck our duties we will pay for it with unruly kids and a "not so very good" relationship with them. Live The Message Live your own life from what you have learned in God. Nothing is more precious than the knowledge God has blessed us with. We know the difference between a parent who applies heavenly wisdom and direction to circumstances in their child's life and the parent who does not. Which parent are you? Are you living the message or are you only hearing the message through Sunday Church service? We should encourage our kids to seek the Lord's wisdom all the time and in all things. "Fix these words of mind in your hearts and minds, tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up". (Deuteronomy 11:18,19) Don't Exasperate Scriptures tells fathers not to exasperate their children but to bring them up in the teachings of God. (NIV Ephesians 6:4) What do you think that means? Let's take a look at what the King James Bible says: "And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord". (KJV Ephesians 6:4) Now, what do you think that refers to? How would a father exasperate his young ones? I think he would perplex and frustrate his kids by saying one thing and doing something entirely different. The point of this scripture is for Christian fathers to comprehend that disciplining of his children should be done through the Lord. A father must allow the Lord to come first in his own life before he can discipline his young ones properly. In other words without the Lords direction in a parents life, he may provoke his son to have anger in him because of his mistaken discipline that comes from himself. It makes sense then, that the only way a parent could discipline his son in the Lord is if the father had faith in the Lord's discipline to begin with. A good disciplinarian is a father who has faith that the Lord knows best. You show your own faith to your son through your faith in God. Bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Be Involved In Their Lives Young ones start out in life looking up to their mothers and fathers because parents are all they have - the parent's example is all they know. Are we patient and understanding of the things they enjoy in life? Do we involve ourselves in their activities and hobbies? Did you know that your connection with your children when they are young will make a difference in your connection with them when they are older? Jesus said, "I have set you as an example that you should do as I have done for you". (John 13:15) Build Children Up In God Teenagers with self-esteem problems have been given this sense of worth from somewhere - it does not come about on its own, it is created by those around them and what they have been taught. Adam and Eve did not have to verify their worth to anyone. But this inverted culture has children running around in circles trying to prove their worth to society. Where is this all coming from? No amount of money can give us a real sense of accomplishment like the value and love we have in the Lord Jesus Christ. "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do". (Ephesians 2:10) Don't Carry High Expectations Some mothers and fathers have too high of expectations for their kids to succeed in this life. They want their children to accomplish things that they themselves never were able to. But this kind of outdated thinking is showing to your children that achievements, status , and money are more important to you than the child. It also puts them under a tremendous burden to prove something they possibly can't accomplish. Mothers and fathers must allow their children to achieve using the God-given talents and gifts the Lord has blessed them with. In this world success may be measured in dollars and cents, but in the Lords world, success is measured in faith, forgiveness, happiness, and love in the Lord Jesus Christ. "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity. Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to preaching and to teaching. Do not neglect your gift". (1 Timothy 4:12-14)
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Angie Lewis Representing the Sacred Mint Christian Gifts Store and Christian Community "The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance. I will praise the LORD, who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me. I have set the LORD always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken." Psalm 16:5-8
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